Amazingly there is very little information out there about adopting twins or even triplets (yep there are a few of those out there as well)! While adoption of high order multiples is not as common as adoption of singletons it does happen! I am one of those adventurous mothers who adopted twins (internationally) and I know of some other mothers who have adopted twins and triplets! If you are considering adopting twins or triplets -- feel free to leave a comment to ask how it was and I will be honest! If you have adopted twins or triplets leave a comment about how your wonderful children came to you! I love to meet others who are on this same amazing rollercoaster!
Feel free to read about our twins at http://abc123vn.wordpress.com
twin adoption, mother chose to parent
We were just 5 weeks from welcoming home boy/girl twins when the mother decided not to place. We are prepared to adopt twins and hope God will bless our family with a child.
If you know someone considering adoptino for their child/ren please share our website www.dbabyadventure.com We are open to age, race, and gender.
Twin Congolese boys
I'm a single guy turning 25 in less than a year, don't ask why I'm not married, I've been in so many dry relationships with women and two good ones where the break up practically ruined my life. I'm starting to think there's no woman out there for me. I want kids more than anything, and I want some if not all to be adopted from Africa. My mother always said "what if you're wife doesn't want that?", but now with more singles adopting these day, I'm starting to realize I don't have to care. I'm looking to adopt two twin boys from the Democratic Republic of the Congo. Their eligibility rules are as follows:
Must be 25 (obviously)
Married couples must have been married for 5 years
No more than two children living in the home
Single parents may adopt but ONLY children of their same sex (this applies to men AND women)*
*Most African countries are one sided saying single men may not adopt female children, but allow single women to adopt boys, but also keeping in mind that women have almost no rights in the Congo, I wonder if there's a connection there.
Anyway, I have almost no support from my family, which I also don't care about. I do still hope to get married at some point afterward, because I would want my kids to have two parents, but I want to adopt first also to side-step the five year marriage requirement. And the other good thing about that would be, that even if I did get divorced, I would not have to relinquish my sons to her, and no child support would be paid, because I did all the work and paid all the red tape to bring them home.
Do you think any of this is unethical?
No I don't think it is
No I don't think it is unethical at all. I am 31 and I plan on adopting twins as well. I hope that your family will support you during the adoption process.
Twins
I'm looking for information on adopting twins because I was recently told I am going to have an ovary removed due to ovarian cyst. Twins run in my husbands family and in my grandmothers family. I have been truly wanting to adopt young twins anywhere from 18 m- 10 ys of age. I'm very young (21) at the moment but I have a 4 year old son who wants siblings. I just want more information on how to go about finding an agency who will help me adopt twins.
Jamie
we adopted twins domestically...chosen to do so twice!
We were chosen twice to adopt twins. The first time was a failed adoption. I suppose you could tell an agency that you only want to adopt twins but you could wait along time for that. We said we were open to twins or triplets (maybe) but we didn't really expect that to happen...especially not twice. The first time we had been waiting 6 months from finalization (9 months from beginning paperwork). That was January of 2009. In October 2009 we found out we were chosen by another family...the babies were born early at 34 weeks on December 31, 2009. So we waited 18 months from finalization to bringing home our babies.
I agree with others...cloth diapers are the way to go. I did it for about 1 year...should have started from the very beginning. I went back to work this fall and stopped the cloth diapers this summer. I just couldn't keep up with the laundry anymore and didn't want the nanny to have to that. Plus I think with two of them in cloth the diapers really got the wear of about 2 years and were starting to show the wear. I still use the covers sometimes at night. It helps with leaks and little hands that like to take off diapers. I put the covers on backwards to make it a little more difficult for them to get the disposables off.
The hardest thing I think about multiples is trying to give each one individual time. it was a little easier when they were younger but they are getting more and more selfish with their time with mom...maybe because I am not with them 24/7 anymore. I think they would be this way no matter what...they just want their individual time. I am really lucky though as my kids are extremely easy, they sleep great, eat well, listen...well...okay...they are almost two afterall so listening isn't a strong suit right now.
Timespan for Adopting Twins
Hello,
My husband and I lost our identical twin boys at 36 weeks. I am pregnant now, but am interested in adopting twins in the future. Prior to my becoming pregnant we completed the Home Study Process and have done some research. I have found out that adopting domestically is much quicker than internationally. Therefore, I think we will do that. I am wondering what a typical wait for adopting twins is, though.
Does anyone have an estimate?
Thanks
Adoption - Twins
Hello to All. My husband and I are interested in adopting twins. We have three biological children, ages 9, 7 and 4, and we are for our next blessings! Can anyone recommend a contact for domestic adoption of twins? We would appreciate any input. Thank you to all.
Adopting Twins and already a mother of 3
We are adopting twins, have been with them daily since there pre-mature birth at 25 weeks, its been a long 45 days thus far with 3 kids at home and 62 visits to the hospital to date. Our boys still have a minimum of 2 more weeks left in the NICU.. I have searched and searched and have found nothing books, support groups, or even other people who have adopted twins or multiples..Please any mom feel free to contact me. we are over the moon excited about this new adventurous chapter in our lives, and also terrified at the same time and how to balance time for each child and ensuring harmony in our home.....if that is ever to be possible again LOL Our children are 15, 12, 4, and 32 weeks ( gestation)
Inquiry in response to your post.
Hi!
My husband and I have been having some intense discussions about adopting twins and so I spend a lot of time reading other's stories. Your post caught my attention the post as I have a 15, 12 and 4 as you and have all the same questions, concerns and inquiries as you did. Can you shed some light on your story. What about your adoption agency. How was your experience?
Most importantly, how are the twins?
Any bit of informatio would be most greatly appreciated.
Adopting twins
Hello,
We just adopted twin boys born at 24 weeks gestation. They were born to a homeless birthmom in a hotel room by firemen. They spent 4 & 5 months in the NICU. I feel your pain trying to make life work for the entire family. I have 2 older children (4 & 6). They both are so excited to have new babies in the house. I have had a heart to heart with them so they both understand the special needs of the twins. They twin boys are now 11 months old (Nov). You can make it work. Just keep lines of communication open so every feels involved. Adoption is such a beautiful thing!! Bless you for loving those children! Sheri
twin girls
I have 4 sons. 17, 13, 3 and 6 months...I love my kids! However, my hubby and I are interested in adopting girls in about 5 years. I am a planner, lol so I am researching adoption now, to see if it is an option for us, since I can no longer have children. We both really have our heart set on twin girls. Can anyone tell me if it is easier to do this domestically or internationally? We will be looking at about newborn to 3 possibly 4 years old. Anyway, just some thoughts on this, and how difficult it would be to find twin girls. I want to be realistic about this... also if anyone has any thoughts on domestic vs international adoption.
thank you,
How much did it cost
How much did it cost
adopting twins
My brother and his girlfriend are having twins.They want me and my soon to be hubby 2 raise the children.we are going to the doctor on thursday to hopefully find out the sex.I have 4 other childer 17,14,10, and 3.i am very nervous but i know we can do it.I would rather the babies come to us then the state.We have a 8 bedroom house so room is not an problem(the house use 2 be a convent thats why its so big)Im laid off but Chris works 2 jobs but finacially i know its gonna be very hard.Just wantes to share my story a little bit thankyou 4 listening
god bless your heart god
god bless your heart god will get you through it just keep on keeping on and pray!!
Adoption
Are you adopting these twin babies? If not, we are interested in adopting twins and would be interested in talking with you.
There are various options
There are various options for financial support for kinship care, depending on your state the amount and name of the program might be different.
Congrats!
That is our dream situation! We are getting licensed through the state and have a potential private situation. It is hard not knowing if/when it will happen. We have 2 biological boys 7 and almost 4. We lost our baby girl to Turner Syndrome this spring. We always wanted to adopt now we are sure we are done getting pregnant and ready for adoption. Congrats! So happy for you!
adopting twins/triplets
Hello there,
beautifull story of yours about adopting the twins! I was just wondering how you went about that?
I am very eager to adopt and would especially love multiples, twins or triplets, as i have a lot of love and time to give. I already have 2 children, and am very keen to have more.
Any information you have would help!
Thankyou
adopting twins
My husband and I adopted twin girls from China 3 years ago. They were 26 months old at the time, which is obviously easier in many ways than adopting twin infants. However, there are still many ways in which you can minimize some costs.
1) If you are not already a member, join Costco. The savings on diapers alone was worth the annual membership fees.
2) When shopping for cribs, mattresses, carseats, and other big ticket items call stores first to inquire if they have twin discounts. For instance, we purchased our crib mattresses at Babies R' Us due to their twin discount. Even some smaller stores will sometimes offer twin discounts if you ask; our local StrideRite store has offered us twin discounts on the girls' shoes for 3 years.
3) Find out if there is a "Mothers of Multiples" organization in your area. The one in our area has an annual used clothing/furniture/toy/etc. sale where lots of twin things can be found in relatively good condition.
4) Have an adoption/baby shower. Don't be afraid to ask for bigger ticket items: friends, co-workers, and family members can kick in money to buy something.
Good luck!
Possibly Adopting Twins- Need Advice Plz
Hi- My husband and I are considering adopting twins. We would normally say yes right away but due to some odd circumstances are taking some time to think it over. We have said we are open to twins- which is a rarity at our agency.
Anyway- we got a call this week asking us to consider twins that are due in July. The agency does not want to stress us out but has said that they will have a hard time placing these 2 b/c of race, gender, the fact that they are twins, and the parents want an open adoption. All of those factors are things that we have been open to or preferred all along. Also, b/c of the odd circumstances I previously mentioned... the adoption will be of no cost to us... yes free.
Our main issue is the money it will take to provide for twins the first year of life. We have 2 older children also, who are 7 and 4. A year ago finances for a family of 6 would not have been a problem but now we are concerned about the cost- mainly diapers, formula, and clothes. Does anyone have any insight here? Can anyone give me some figures? What does it cost to feed/diaper twins a month? That first year? We really want to say yes but don't want to bite off more than we can chew.
Any advice or insight would be sooo appreciate.
Thanks in advance,
Marie
cost of twins first year
Hi there. We have 9 month old biological twin boys and we estimate that it costs $300/month to care care of both of them. But that's just the basics (food, clothes, diapers, wipes, few toys). To get the bigger baby stuff (jumperoos, walkers, playyards, extra furniture) is all extra, but we do A LOT with craigslist. You can always get great deals and have a baby shower! People love to give gifts for twins :)
money & twins
Hello, I am sure by now you have settled into your new family routine. I am so happy for you. We too adopted preemie twin boys this year. Our issue is the financial cost of their ongoing medical care because of their severe prematurity. However, I can say that I use Amazon Mom and subscribe to get diapers cheaper. It's nice to have them delivered with no shipping cost and on a regular schedule so I don't run out. Having 4 kids 5 and under keeps me very busy so the convenience is nice. I wasn't someone who could do cloth. But if it works for you great! I also have made good use of consignment stores. And I don't get caught up in colors of fabrics for swings etc... Best of Luck and Congratulations!!!!
www.winwithtwins.com
twin costs
i have a son and a daughter(twins) now almost 2. cloth diapers are cheapest but if your not into those then i would go with luvs they are cheep and are wonderful quality. i whent through about 18 powder cans 13oz a month. if you get a playyard/bassinette they have a twin one at babiesrus.com and special hands free bottles. because they are twins though i would try the mothers milk bank your insurance should cover it. also check out justmultiples.com lots of great stuff! and if you have a gabriel project that is amazingly helpfull! as for gear less is better. dont bye two of everything. buy 1 swing 1 jumperoo 1 floor gym ect but buy 2 bouncers. i would strap them in their bouncers and wash them in the tub like thats so much easier being a single mom! dont buy infant seats buy convertable ones that last a lot longer and buy a twin carrier so you can hold them and still have your hands free. any other questions you can email me at mattpaige13@yahoo.com. congrats on any disition you feel appropriate.
Marie- I know I will sound
Marie- I know I will sound absolutely crazy to you, but one great way to cut costs with twins is to use cloth diapers! I spent $250 on Best Bottoms diapers for my girls and the savings is absolutely huge! If you are bent on using dispoables, I would say you'd go through a $20 box (a little over 100 diapers) in a little less than a week.
The formula thing is, unfortunately, very pricy. I go through 1 quart of formula per day, but that is only supplementing. I'm guessing you'll go through two quarts per day. You'll probably go through a $30 can in a week. However, if you can get WIC, they will give you formula.
So, all in all, I'm guessing $50 per week at the low end.
Marie-twins
Marie- I would love to know the agency you are using? We are very flexible on what we are looking for as well.
Good luck with the twins!
cost of twins
They can be a bit expensive. We were lucky with ours that they could take the regular formulas but seems most of my friends twins were on the expensive stuff. At 25 a can ( for the regular size) we went through it in less than 3 days. It goes quick! Diapers add up too but besides those two things, there is also clothing and of course washing them. We go through at least 2 outfits a piece a day. They are worth it though! We are looking to adopt twins now. We gave birth to our first three boys but now want to add in some little girls:) We know it is a hard fit to place twin sometimes but feel since we have done it, we can survive it again. Good luck!
Twins on the way!
I adopted my son Peter from Russia, and I would have loved to adopt two daughters from Russia, as I'm Russian and like the little bond it gives us, but unfortunately Russia's being a bit touchy about adoptions right now. However, fortunately for me and my hubby, we found twins available domestically! So our two babies will be coming to us in a few weeks! I'm thrilled!!! Twice the fun & love! Any tips???
Congrats~ on extending your
Congrats~ on extending your family. my husband and I just got back from Korea and brought back a little girl who was 3 weeks old at the time. She is now three months old now. Cute as a button. I found yesterday that my husband and I are expecting triplets. We are due Nov 2011. I am excited to get to experence both adaption and having a child. Life will be challenging with 4 little ones under the age 10 months. God has blessed us everyday, we are looking forward to the chalanges that lie ahead.
Congrats on your double
Congrats on your double blessing that is on the way via adoption. You are in for the ride of your life. My twin girls are 5 years old now and every day is something new.
As far as tips
1. If someone offers you help: accept it!! Even if it's just a meal. You will probably need lots and lots of help at first. Caring for two infants is very exhausting.
2. You do not need to buy two of everything.
3. Buy sleepers with zippers instead of fancy buttons or snaps. It makes diaper changes so much easier.
We found them at Target and it made life so much easier for us!!
4. Take lots and lots of picture. it's amazing how fast those first few months go by and you forget when you're tired. :)
5. Tag team with your husband to feed at night. this way you can both get long stretches of sleep.
Enjoy those babies!!
Congratulations!
That's wonderful news! My best piece of advice is to get plenty of sleep now, because you'll be craving it once the twins arrive!
Susan M. Heim is the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Twins and More and It's Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from Infancy Through Adolescence.
want to adopt twins
we would love to adopt twins to add to our lovely family.. where to start ?
Bi-racial couple hoping to adopt...especially twins!!
We are Karla and Stacy and we are a fun, energetic, and loving couple. We are incredibly excited to be on our way to fulfilling our biggest dream – growing our family through adoption! We are obviously not limited to, but would LOVE twins as we want to have two children. We want to start by saying a heartfelt thanks to you and anyone else in the birth family who may be supporting you as you consider adoption and search for the right family for your child. We know that we do not fully understand the emotion and the complexity you are experiencing in this process but we respect your strength, faith, and courage. We hope you will find our values, dreams, goals, and personalities to be a good match for you and your child.
Also see our facebook page at : http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/pages/And-Baby-Makes-Three-Karla-and-Stacys-Adoption-Journey/135241126508725
Thank you for considering us.
Karla and Stacy
Getting Started
My husband and I really want to adopt but have no idea where to start. We'd like to adopt twins but I'm not sure where to even begin. If someone could help, I'd be greatly appreciative.-Jenni
Adopting
Jenni, We have adopted 4 children. Including one set of twins, not knowing they were twins until the last week. But anyway, our best adoption results and cheapest cost were the private adoptions. Our first sons adoption cost us $28K through an agency. Our other two were 1/4 of that cost b/c they were private. My suggestion, is to let anyone and everyone know you are interested in adoption. You'll be surprised at the number of people who know someone pregnant looking to place a child. Also be sure to tell your OB/Gyn. Talk to your local pregnancy center. Ours here has an adoption agency which is cheaper in cost b/c they are a ministry. And also I would suggest getting your homestudy started asap. Paperwork can hold you up.
In my biggest suggestions, pray! God has your children picked out already. I was so hesitant about our last adoption but He delivered on His promise all the way through. Best wishes for you!!! Sheri
We could be adopting twins... help!
Hello,
I just got a call today about a BM who is having twin girls and wanted to know if my husband and I were interested. We actually were hoping for twins as we can't have children of our own and we always wanted two children. The idea of going through the whole adoption process over again and the price to adopt again was so overwelming! So imagine how exciting to have gotten the call today. We sent our profile book out via email today and now await to hear if she picks us. She is due in Sept. but is in the hospital today with contractions and she is dialated at 3. The doctors are doing everything to keep the babies in as long as possible. The babies seem to be healthy and the same with the BM. I am wondering now, if she does pick us, what now? Do I buy double of everything? We have nothing but a pack-n-play I picked up at Target on sale for $20 and a baby hammock swing I got from a friend in case we were placed last minute I had something he/she could sleep in. Now that it could be two babies, I don't know if I should buy two cribs right away or do they normally share one at firrst? I now that two car seats will be the first on the list. What else??
Preparing for Twins
What wonderful news! I really hope this works out for you and your husband. Most parents of twins find that they DON'T need two of everything. For instance, I would put one baby in the swing and the other baby in the bouncy seat, and then I would switch them when they got tired of being in the same place. If these babies are born soon, they will be small, so they can share a crib at first. You'll definitely want two later, but as newborns they can share unless they end up with fetal monitors or something that could be disturbed by sleeping with another baby. For now, you'll just need lots of diapers, clothes and bottles! And you'll want a double stroller. (I like tandem ones because they're easier to get down the store aisles and sidewalks.) The other stuff you'll figure out as you go along. But don't buy double everything right away.
Susan M. Heim is the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Twins and More and It's Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from Infancy Through Adolescence.
Hi I am very intrested in
Hi I am very intrested in adopting twins and I was wondering any info that you could give me. I was wondering is the cost doubled? And was the process more difficult?
My husband and I have 9
My husband and I have 9 children- 6 are adopted, and the 3 biological are triplets. After we had our triplets, we decided to adopt (crazy, i know!) and the fact that we had multiples already, became a plus for the adoption agency. The process to get our twins from India was like any other adoption process. The cost didn't necessarily double, but it did go up. However, the process did not take as long as it would have normally. When we decided to adopt again 4 years later, we decided to go for a different country and again, the agency contacted us right away because we had already had multiples, and now, we have quadruplet girls from China. That process was difficult because there were 4 children instead of one or two. So here is my advice- adopting multiples is a little more complicated because it involves more than just one life. However, depending on the country you are adopting from, it may be easier to get twins because some people may not wish to adopt more than once child, or it may be harder because of the fact that there is two children instead of one. Before we adopted, we researched adopting twins a lot before hand. If i were you, i'd do the same :)
Good luck, hope this helped!
Where to start?
My husband & I just decided to adopt after trying on our own for 12 years and numerous fertility treatments. My hearts desire is to have twins... where do I look for them? Any advice? Thanks!!
Adoption
Hello go to the home page www.doorofhomeorphanhome.page.tl if you are still interested in child adoption . My husband and I adopted from there . Thanks
Mirabel and Michael
I'd say Africa is a good
I'd say Africa is a good place to adopt twins from. When my husband & I were first looking to adopt, our agency told us that if we wanted twins, Africa was a good place to look because for some reason, genetically women in Africa tend to be more likely to give birth to twins, and therefore, many orphans in Africa are twins. China is a good place to adopt from (it's where we got our girls). Still, i would also recommend India- the requirements are high (no more than 2 children at home already, longer process...) but twins are common there also. I think it's great that you want twins. Just make sure you know what your getting yourself into!!
adopting twins
My husband and I are in the process of adopting for the second time. We are adopting domestically, our first child was adopted as a newborn and it was also domestic adoption. Our agency contacted us yesterday to ask if we'd consider adopting twins (open adoption so it will ultimately be the birthmother's decision). I am over the moon with excitement but also have a bunch of worries. My husband is much more hesitant. Our son is 18 months old and the babies are due in September (he'll be 21 months old). My concerns are $ (not really adoption costs but cost of a car that will fit 3 car seats, cost of travel-my family is 600 miles away and my husbands' family is in Europe), energy (we are in our 40's) and even logistics of how will I take care of the horses/yard/house if I can't carry the babies in a front or back pack!
I've always imagined myself being the Mother of twins-they don't run in my family so why did I imagine that? We did IVF once and had 3 embryos implanted so, as I pointed out to my husband, if I hadn't miscarried, we'd already experienced multiples!
Any advice would be appreciated-other than get rid of the horses (and dogs and cats)-
Thanks!
Twins
I see you are adopting twins or are considering it. I am soooo jealous. We are just starting on this adoption thing and I am in no way ready financially to adopt but if I could tell you my dream it would be twins. One boy and one girl. I don't care about race. I am just afraid that I am shooting for the moon. Any advice?
I am so sorry for all your loses in the past. I hope this is it this time, for you and everyone else.
God Bless
adopting twins
I recently started the process of adopting twins, boy and girl/ International adoption. This is a wonderful experience. There is nothing as interesting as this in my entire life. A single mom \gave birth on July 9th 12009 and passed on the following day. The dad was deemed to be unfit to care for the children by the Social Service Dept. I on the other hand had been tring to conceive for many years.through IVF. I quickly jumped at the opportunity. I have spent thousands of dollars on the adoption process. This does not matter to me one bit. The only care in the world is my children. I love them. They are unique in so many ways. They are young but humble, smart, very well adjusted.
Nothing can or will change my mind on adopting my two little ones.
Anyone who gets that opportunity should jump at it
Adopting Twins
My husband and I are in the process of adopting again from Ethiopia. We have two biological children and one adopted and are going back for twins this time. I have been researching a ton and have talked to numerous families with twins and those who have or are in the process of adopting twins! I could use any and all advice offered! Thanks so much!
adopting twins domestically
We are very blessed because we have actually had a birth mother/friend come to us and want us to adopt her twins. She is probably 2 months along but I can already feel them moving. Everything will be legal soon. We have the privilege of being involved with everything......ultrasounds...birth etc.......she will not look at the ultrasounds and she never wants to hold the babies.
As strange as the circumstances are we are blessed and thankful. We already have a 4 yr old son and we have been trying to get pregnant again since we had him.
We had been lookin into adoption anyways when the twins came into our lives. Now the question is where do we go from here? Do we have what it takes to care for twins? I already know they are ours.........but I don't know what it's going to feel like.........will I be able to bond with them?
I am excited but also very nervous. I just don't know what to expect.......
I was wondering how your
I was wondering how your adoption process is going? We, too, were approached to adopt by a birthmom we know and I'm trying to find out the process and cost in doing so. Just wondering how it's going and what steps you've taken. Also, out of curiosity, what state are you in?
Thanks,
Liz
adopting twins domestically
Sad news.....The babies miscarried.....my heart is in pieces. We helped the birthmother/ our friend while it was happening. We feel a very close bond with her. We should have a funeral next weekend. We're not sure how to move on from here. Our faith is in God and he knows best. Whether we continue to try to get pregnant or go to an adoption agency I just don't know......
Prayers appreciated....blessings
all in my prayers
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I too have biological children and want more and I am not sure where to go from here. I am soooo sorry for your loss.
God Bless.
I'm so sorry
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. What a disappointment this must be for you. Keep us updated on your future plans.
Susan M. Heim is the author of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Twins and More and It's Twins! Parent-to-Parent Advice from Infancy Through Adolescence.