Amazingly there is very little information out there about adopting twins or even triplets (yep there are a few of those out there as well)! While adoption of high order multiples is not as common as adoption of singletons it does happen! I am one of those adventurous mothers who adopted twins (internationally) and I know of some other mothers who have adopted twins and triplets! If you are considering adopting twins or triplets -- feel free to leave a comment to ask how it was and I will be honest! If you have adopted twins or triplets leave a comment about how your wonderful children came to you! I love to meet others who are on this same amazing rollercoaster!
Feel free to read about our twins at http://abc123vn.wordpress.com
21 years old but wants to adopt when older
Hey. Basically. Im not really the "relationship" type of guy. so marriage isn't my thing, but I've always loved kids, and I've always wanted a daughter. Once I have my own house and my career down I really want to adopt. But is it normal for a guy around 30 years old to adopt a little girl? My friends say its weird, but i do not think so. Any feedback would be nice.
God Bless.
Hey. I just read your little
Hey. I just read your little concern and yeah a lot of people might think its weird but I mean Hey if you want kids, then take the risk. From listening to you, it sounds like you would make a great parent. I know you don't like relationships so are you sure you will be able to handle the father, daughter relationship?
Have Fun! xo.
adopting twins
My husband and I would like to adopt twin girls from South America
A heart for twins
My husband and I are hoping to adopt twins. I was'nt sure how common that was. We are in the process of getting our Home Study. We had always wanted a big family, but I can't have anymore more children. We have two children, my son who is 9 and my daughter who is 7. After my first born the doctors recomended I not have more. But of course I did. Then after my second I knew I could'nt have more. I barely made it through the first two and knew a third could be life threatening.
As a family we have been praying for God to open doors for us to adopt twins. We have even thought about triplets. My husband is a twin and his mother was a twin. Adoption is very common in my family. And yes, I agree, the open adoptions have been best. We are hoping that we can do an open adoption at some point. We would love to be able to be a blessing to someone and to be blessed with more children. Adoption is such a beautiful thing, in so many ways.
Still can't believe it
Hi, I had an opportunity to come to me to adopt twins, next year. I have been trying to concieve for a while. I have been pregnant once, miscarried and several surgery's after that. Long story short, I'm left with one blocked Fallopian tube. I had accepted it and moved on. Those that knew me, knew my story. Well one day at work,a co-worker presented me with a opportunity to adopt twins next year. It was all so surreal. The mother wants a private closed adoption, no agency. She just wants the lawyer to draw paperwork up. It seems to good to be true. I've been an emotional roller coaster bc there are a bunch of risk involved. I wanted the opportunity for one but two. I'm super excited and I wanna do things right legally. She is only 3months and I know a lot could happen in 7 months of her changing her mind. I have done some research and I'm confused as to if I would have to do a home study being it's a private adoption. Home study are very expensive, running $1500 thus far from what's have found. I don't know what to do, NCI would have to pay money forahomestudy this soon and she changes her mind toward the end. She offered for us to write up a legal document stating neither one of us would change our mind but most saywevan do that. Please help,,,excited and confused!
Daughter possibly giving up twin boys
I'm interested in hearing from those of you who have adopted twins. My 17 yo daughter is 7 mo pregnant with twin boys and considering adoption. I'm supportive of her whether she chooses to raise them or not. However, I find I'm having a difficult time with the idea of her giving them up. I don't know if it's because I'm already forming an attachment to the babies or if it's because I can see how much it's going to hurt her. So, I guess to help me do a better job at supporting her through this time, I just need to hear hard it's actually been to raise twins and your experiences with open adoption. I know closed adoption is not something she could handle and I truly feel open is better for the children.
Hi im 21 yrs old in school
Hi im 21 yrs old in school no babies but to be honest the thought of your daughter having twins even though she may be a bit young i think it will never go away if she chose to give those twins up they maybe hard to take care of at first but they will bring much joy to the family and as long as she knows you will be there to help her out im very sure she will do just fine with those kids. I was just researching about having twins and adopting twins when im older and married hopefully one day when i acme across this i do hope you make a good decision about it and are always there by your daughters siddee supporting her all she needs is your support mostly .
adopting twins
I'm supposing that you live somewhere in california? or a state similar to? I would think that you, your daughter would be very wise to do a very open adoption: with contact between both sides, like photos, visits, family time. I believe that adoption islike marriage, joining two groups together --- providing the best for the children. And who among us can really do this alone? I would love to add family members, and to have the best of all possible worlds -- your daughter, the bio mom visiting, and addingto the family life of the children, and also you as a grandparent being supportive. Family and supportive relationships is what this world should be about.
Of course you do mention the difficulties of parenting two children at one time, of course!!!! That's why it takes a village!!!!!!!
A loving family
I was reading your post, and I wanted to say congratulations. Twins are such a blessing. My husband and I have one biological son who is three years old, and now we are ready to adopt to expand our family. We have completed our initial paperwork and are so excited about the journey that awaits us. Both of our extended families are very supportive and live close in proximity to us. If your daughter considers adopting the twins, please reach out to us. We have a great place where the boys will be able to run and play. They will be loved very much. Email me if you would like more information about us!I will be praying for your family! Take care.
Regard to your concern of twin boys
Hi Daughter's Mother,
I am a mother of twin boys. I totally fell in love with them and of course, they are still very handful ! They will turn 8 years old this Dec 23rd.
Back to your concern of adopting twin boys or not, The date you posted was last Oct 18th and I hope it wont be too late for me to reply back to you. I have to admit that it was very difficult time to handle twins at beginning because I had an anemia plus my families live out of state while I used to live in Colorado. Also, time consuming has to be well prepared in early advance everyday till about four years old, they will easily follow if you keep up with twin's schedule everyday.
Open Adoption is probably the best option as well because you will know how well they can take care of but it may be hard on you and your daughter.
Wish you the best luck. I personally would love to adopt other twin boys because I do still missing my boys when they were babies. It would be much fun !
Family would be happy to help
We live in Jackson Hole Wyoming and would love to adopt twins! We currently have a 6 year old daughter and want to add on to our fun & active life. Keep us in mind if your thoughts are for adoption. Thanks
Adoption is Love
I came upon your post and I want you to know that you are such a great mother to be supportive and there for your daughter. I've watched my sister-in-law and cousin raise twins. Both required a lot of family support, but overall twins always have each other and so things get easier as they get older. I understand your concern with adoption. I also see the other side of adoption.. My sister and her husband have tried to have a baby for years and are now on a list waiting for someone to have that baby for them. They are all established in life with a secure marriage and family unit and ready to provide a loving home. https://itsaboutlove.org/ial/profiles/26112323/ourMessage.jsf As this site states, it really is about love. Whether your daughter choses to give up or keep her babies, it is love that will ensure their success in the future. Love her, love them, and find the best decision for you. Every situation is different. Prayers are with you and her.
Praying for your daughter.
Praying for your daughter. I would love to adopt twins, and bring them into our family.
I feel for you and your
I feel for you and your daughter . I was taken away from my mom when I was young . My dad raised me with.another family, ans kept it a secret. I always wondered why I.was so light skinned compared to everyone else in the family. Later I found outy mom is white and I'm beautiful just like her. Open adoption is best a child should k.ow who they are and where they come from. Remember when they pick a wife you have to be there :). Now i do want to adopt twins but only if the mother is sure just remember they are her babies. The sad thing is.adoption cost so much my dreams are crushed .:(
Hi there. I actually did not
Hi there. I actually did not adopt my twin boys, who are 13 months old now, but had them naturally. I will tell you it is definitely not the easiest thing in the world, but it is such a blessing! I would have/adopt another set of twins in a HEARTBEAT! Your daughter may just be feeling overwhelmed, nervous and scares which is a natural reaction and she may realize that with one baby her life will completely change and now add another little one on top of it! All you can do is be supportive of her decisions and hope that she fully understands the decisions she is making for herself and those precious little boys!
Thank you. I know I'm
Thank you. I know I'm already attached to them, and I"m not even the one carrying them. I've tried to keep distanced, but my grandbabies are already trying to push their way into the world and she tells me their different personalities and has named them already.
Since she discussed adoption with social services, she hasn't bought anything for them or mentioned getting a room ready. I asked her yesterday, as we were at the hospital with her having strong contractions again, if she's thought anymore of keeping them. She said "no." So I think they'll definitely go to adoption. Which means, she needs to get working on the paperwork and meeting the families. She has my support no matter which decision she makes. I've even offered to let her and the babies stay with me until whenever. I'd rather pool our resources than leave her hanging on her own. I know she's afraid of the work and money involved, but I think she might truly be thinking of the babies best interests.
I know we'll both cry, but I also know that adoption will probably be the best for them and her. It will be an open adoption, so I know I won't be totally cut off from them, but I'm taking a back seat on this. Maybe one day, when they're older, they'll want to know this grandma. Or maybe the family will be open to having me around sometimes, too. I told my daughter, she won't be their parent anymore but she'll always be their birth mother. And with open adoption, she at least gets to be in a position of "extended family".
I hope and pray for healthy babies who have a happy childhood and that I'm able to help my daughter through whichever decision she makes.
Adoption
While I was not adopted, both my parents were. My whole extended family is not "biologically" mine. I was raised in a loving home with grandparents, aunts and cousins who all love me very much.
I am the mother of twins myself. I know how much work they can be. Double diapers. Double formula. Double the time up at night.
I have also worked as an adoption social worker for a social services agency. I have seen the ins and outs of adoption for the side of the adoptive families and the birth mothers. It is a struggle for all involved, but in the end there is NO doubt in my mind that adoption is an amazing gift to the children, to the adoptive parents, and to the birth mother.
I have walked with birth families through the struggle of making an adoption plan for their children. I HIGHLY recommend counseling for all involved as you walk through this process before, during and after the delivery.
Your daughter is young. I'm sure she has dreams she would like to pursue. Having two children at 17 would definitely hinder her ability to pursue higher education and her ability to provide for herself in the future.
On the other side of the coin, there is a couple who is praying to be a family, praying for children to hold and love. They are usually couples who have been married for 3 years or more and have not been able to have children of their own, or couples who love children and want to add to their families.
Open adoptions, to be honest, can be tricky. I don't know where you live, but in our state (TN) the openness of an adoption is not, and cannot, be enforced by the courts. It is an agreement between the birth parent and adoptive parents. If the birth parents feel that the open end of the adoption is hurting or harmful to the children they can choose to close the adoption. Be sure to talk openly about what is expected and acceptable with the adoptive family often to make sure that everyone is on the same page.
My prayers are with you all as you struggle through this time of transition and trial, whatever you choose!
Jenni
Wanting to adopt twins from China
My husband and I are considering adoption of twin girls from China and were wondering what agencies everyone used and what was your waiting time and experience like?
adopting twin girls
My husband and I signed with an agency and stated what we were willing to accept with drug use, etc. We said we were willing to take twins. I was secretly hoping for twins because there are twins in my family. We got the call about three weeks ago for twin girls. The birth mom is due in just a few weeks. We are keeping our fingers crosses that everything goes well!!
twins
What agency did you use to adopt twins? I would love to adopt twin, boys or girls! Domestic or international.... I have two girls and want as big as a family as my husband would let me! It would be such a blessing to adopt twins!
Adopting twins
I would love to adopt twins.. How does one go about this?
interested in adopting twins...where do I start
Hi,
I am a mother of three and my husband and I are interested in adopting twins...where did you start this journey? I started with the county that I live in and that really did not work out and have looked into one adoption agency but was told not to apply if that was my only interest...please help!
help adopting twins
I was a twin and my husband found out, we have to adopt cause I cant have children and we decided to go and try for twins, I would of loved to of meet my twin and had a life with her, but unfortunately that was not possible i think it is great to have someone you are so close to. I would like to know how you went about adopting twins?
need info
so my mind has been set on adopting twin baby girls for a while now but i just need to know what website or phone number to call on getting started on adopting twin baby girls because i would really like for them to join my family and to love and care for them like they are my own
so if anyone have any info for me about adopting twin baby girls could you plaese email me the information thank you.!
Twin adoption help
My hubby and I have been married for quite a bit, but we are really wanting to adopt twins. We are unable to have babies of our own. I would love to get any information I can get from what agency to look at to adopt twins from. Please and advise or help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
hi i was just wondering did
hi i was just wondering did you find out any info about adopting your twins yet because i was very looking forward to adopting twin baby girls my self and dont know where to start so i was just wondering if you had any info on that could you please let me no a mother to a mother wanting to adopt twins thank you so very much i would really appreciate it
how to adopt
If you want to adopt, you need a homestudy. In most states this can be done by an agency or a private social worker. It should take 1-3 months and will require medical checks, background checks, home visit, lots of paperwork, etc. Some states require classes, too. Decide whether you want to adopt internationally or domestically (in your own country). The home study will say what you are approved for and requirements are different for each country.
Make a profile describing yourself and including text and pictures. Offer this to as many agencies and attorneys you can find and let them know you are especially interested in twins. Advertise yourself if your state allows.
If you ONLY will adopt twins, you may wait a LONG time and you may not ever adopt. The number of sets of twins up for adoption is small, and the number of people hoping to adopt is large. The more flexible you are on they type of child (age, gender, race, special needs, number), the better your chance of adopting.
I wanted to adopt a girl but also considered "unknown" situations since so few women even know what gender baby they are carrying. It took four years to get a match, and my "unknown" turned out to be a delightful boy with dimples. I met him the day he was born and have been breastfeeding him ever since--he is my son.
No we still are looking at
No we still are looking at the best way to go about adopting twins. Still if anyone has information about how to do this, I would be ever so greatful.
Twins...
I think adopting twins is kind of the luck of the draw. We are working with a lawyer who approached us about adopting twins, and we were so excited. We are adopting the in august and have been preparing for the journey. Adopting twins is not like adopting a singleton, it really is just luck. I would suggest trying to adopt two separate babies at once. Whether it be through two agencies or the same one. Just a thought though.
twin adoption, mother chose to parent
We were just 5 weeks from welcoming home boy/girl twins when the mother decided not to place. We are prepared to adopt twins and hope God will bless our family with a child.
If you know someone considering adoptino for their child/ren please share our website www.dbabyadventure.com We are open to age, race, and gender.
You will find your adoptive
You will find your adoptive family...it may not be twins but it will be amazing! We are a happy adoptive family of two boys a year apart...and they are amazing...it's busy! But such a blessing<3
Twin Congolese boys
I'm a single guy turning 25 in less than a year, don't ask why I'm not married, I've been in so many dry relationships with women and two good ones where the break up practically ruined my life. I'm starting to think there's no woman out there for me. I want kids more than anything, and I want some if not all to be adopted from Africa. My mother always said "what if you're wife doesn't want that?", but now with more singles adopting these day, I'm starting to realize I don't have to care. I'm looking to adopt two twin boys from the Democratic Republic of the Congo. Their eligibility rules are as follows:
Must be 25 (obviously)
Married couples must have been married for 5 years
No more than two children living in the home
Single parents may adopt but ONLY children of their same sex (this applies to men AND women)*
*Most African countries are one sided saying single men may not adopt female children, but allow single women to adopt boys, but also keeping in mind that women have almost no rights in the Congo, I wonder if there's a connection there.
Anyway, I have almost no support from my family, which I also don't care about. I do still hope to get married at some point afterward, because I would want my kids to have two parents, but I want to adopt first also to side-step the five year marriage requirement. And the other good thing about that would be, that even if I did get divorced, I would not have to relinquish my sons to her, and no child support would be paid, because I did all the work and paid all the red tape to bring them home.
Do you think any of this is unethical?
I think it's fine, but...
ethically, nothing wrong. I admire your will to have children, but I would be nervous for any single parent, especially in this situation. Be careful. these boys may not know english, they are going to have culture shock, and multi-ethnic homes can sometimes cause identity crisises. If it were me, I would probably wait and have a fiancee ahead of time to avoid the trouble of dealing with all the issues and earning money alone. all children need the care of two parents, in my opinions. I just don't want to make it hard on those boys. I think it could work out, but just think hard before you leap. And good luck, adopting international twins! wow!
No I don't think it is
No I don't think it is unethical at all. I am 31 and I plan on adopting twins as well. I hope that your family will support you during the adoption process.
Twins
I'm looking for information on adopting twins because I was recently told I am going to have an ovary removed due to ovarian cyst. Twins run in my husbands family and in my grandmothers family. I have been truly wanting to adopt young twins anywhere from 18 m- 10 ys of age. I'm very young (21) at the moment but I have a 4 year old son who wants siblings. I just want more information on how to go about finding an agency who will help me adopt twins.
Jamie
we adopted twins domestically...chosen to do so twice!
We were chosen twice to adopt twins. The first time was a failed adoption. I suppose you could tell an agency that you only want to adopt twins but you could wait along time for that. We said we were open to twins or triplets (maybe) but we didn't really expect that to happen...especially not twice. The first time we had been waiting 6 months from finalization (9 months from beginning paperwork). That was January of 2009. In October 2009 we found out we were chosen by another family...the babies were born early at 34 weeks on December 31, 2009. So we waited 18 months from finalization to bringing home our babies.
I agree with others...cloth diapers are the way to go. I did it for about 1 year...should have started from the very beginning. I went back to work this fall and stopped the cloth diapers this summer. I just couldn't keep up with the laundry anymore and didn't want the nanny to have to that. Plus I think with two of them in cloth the diapers really got the wear of about 2 years and were starting to show the wear. I still use the covers sometimes at night. It helps with leaks and little hands that like to take off diapers. I put the covers on backwards to make it a little more difficult for them to get the disposables off.
The hardest thing I think about multiples is trying to give each one individual time. it was a little easier when they were younger but they are getting more and more selfish with their time with mom...maybe because I am not with them 24/7 anymore. I think they would be this way no matter what...they just want their individual time. I am really lucky though as my kids are extremely easy, they sleep great, eat well, listen...well...okay...they are almost two afterall so listening isn't a strong suit right now.
Timespan for Adopting Twins
Hello,
My husband and I lost our identical twin boys at 36 weeks. I am pregnant now, but am interested in adopting twins in the future. Prior to my becoming pregnant we completed the Home Study Process and have done some research. I have found out that adopting domestically is much quicker than internationally. Therefore, I think we will do that. I am wondering what a typical wait for adopting twins is, though.
Does anyone have an estimate?
Thanks
Adoption - Twins
Hello to All. My husband and I are interested in adopting twins. We have three biological children, ages 9, 7 and 4, and we are for our next blessings! Can anyone recommend a contact for domestic adoption of twins? We would appreciate any input. Thank you to all.
Adopting Twins and already a mother of 3
We are adopting twins, have been with them daily since there pre-mature birth at 25 weeks, its been a long 45 days thus far with 3 kids at home and 62 visits to the hospital to date. Our boys still have a minimum of 2 more weeks left in the NICU.. I have searched and searched and have found nothing books, support groups, or even other people who have adopted twins or multiples..Please any mom feel free to contact me. we are over the moon excited about this new adventurous chapter in our lives, and also terrified at the same time and how to balance time for each child and ensuring harmony in our home.....if that is ever to be possible again LOL Our children are 15, 12, 4, and 32 weeks ( gestation)
Inquiry in response to your post.
Hi!
My husband and I have been having some intense discussions about adopting twins and so I spend a lot of time reading other's stories. Your post caught my attention the post as I have a 15, 12 and 4 as you and have all the same questions, concerns and inquiries as you did. Can you shed some light on your story. What about your adoption agency. How was your experience?
Most importantly, how are the twins?
Any bit of informatio would be most greatly appreciated.
Adopting twins
Hello,
We just adopted twin boys born at 24 weeks gestation. They were born to a homeless birthmom in a hotel room by firemen. They spent 4 & 5 months in the NICU. I feel your pain trying to make life work for the entire family. I have 2 older children (4 & 6). They both are so excited to have new babies in the house. I have had a heart to heart with them so they both understand the special needs of the twins. They twin boys are now 11 months old (Nov). You can make it work. Just keep lines of communication open so every feels involved. Adoption is such a beautiful thing!! Bless you for loving those children! Sheri
All my best to you! What an
All my best to you! What an amazing situation! Life takes us places we thought we would never be and yet are so grateful for! All the best to you and yours <3
twin girls
I have 4 sons. 17, 13, 3 and 6 months...I love my kids! However, my hubby and I are interested in adopting girls in about 5 years. I am a planner, lol so I am researching adoption now, to see if it is an option for us, since I can no longer have children. We both really have our heart set on twin girls. Can anyone tell me if it is easier to do this domestically or internationally? We will be looking at about newborn to 3 possibly 4 years old. Anyway, just some thoughts on this, and how difficult it would be to find twin girls. I want to be realistic about this... also if anyone has any thoughts on domestic vs international adoption.
thank you,
How much did it cost
How much did it cost
adopting twins
My brother and his girlfriend are having twins.They want me and my soon to be hubby 2 raise the children.we are going to the doctor on thursday to hopefully find out the sex.I have 4 other childer 17,14,10, and 3.i am very nervous but i know we can do it.I would rather the babies come to us then the state.We have a 8 bedroom house so room is not an problem(the house use 2 be a convent thats why its so big)Im laid off but Chris works 2 jobs but finacially i know its gonna be very hard.Just wantes to share my story a little bit thankyou 4 listening
god bless your heart god
god bless your heart god will get you through it just keep on keeping on and pray!!
Adoption
Are you adopting these twin babies? If not, we are interested in adopting twins and would be interested in talking with you.
There are various options
There are various options for financial support for kinship care, depending on your state the amount and name of the program might be different.
Congrats!
That is our dream situation! We are getting licensed through the state and have a potential private situation. It is hard not knowing if/when it will happen. We have 2 biological boys 7 and almost 4. We lost our baby girl to Turner Syndrome this spring. We always wanted to adopt now we are sure we are done getting pregnant and ready for adoption. Congrats! So happy for you!
adopting twins/triplets
Hello there,
beautifull story of yours about adopting the twins! I was just wondering how you went about that?
I am very eager to adopt and would especially love multiples, twins or triplets, as i have a lot of love and time to give. I already have 2 children, and am very keen to have more.
Any information you have would help!
Thankyou